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Domestic Abuse

#YouAreNotAlone Campaign

The Home Office’s #YouAreNotAlone campaign. The campaign aims to reassure anyone at risk of, or experiencing, domestic abuse, they can still leave and seek refuge. Under the hash tag #YouAreNotAlone, it aims to create a community around those affected and reassure victims that support remains available. Access to their social media graphics and posters can be found by clicking this link

Thames Valley Police launched a Domestic Abuse awareness campaign in conjunction with the Government’s #YouAreNotAlone campaign. They have issued information about the Silent Solution (calling 999 and pressing 55) as well as using their local social media channels to connect people to support organisations. Access to their social media graphics and posters can be found by clicking this link

#NoExcuseforAbuse Campaign

The Respect Phoneline has launched the #NoExcuseForAbuse campaign. It's aimed at perpetrators of domestic abuse and their key message is that the lockdown is not an excuse for abuse. There has been a national increase in calls to the national domestic abuse helpline; Respect have been monitoring their data since the Covid-19 measures were introduced. Access to their campaign poster and other resources can be found by clicking this link

Domestic Abuse

Within any relationship, there are ups and downs – people say and do things to each other that are hurtful, however, there’s a difference between a normal argument and abusive, fighting and threatening behaviour, this is domestic violence or abuse.

There are a number of definitions and the Government defines domestic violence as: ‘Any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality." This includes issues of concern to black and minority ethnic (BME) communities such as so called 'honour killings’.

Types of abuse

Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviour that includes emotional, physical, sexual and financial abuse. It’s about using power and control over the other person. Domestic violence generally doesn't happen just once, over time it tends to happen more often and becomes more serious and severe.

Domestic violence doesn’t always have to be physical; it often also includes emotional, financial and sexual abuse. Many of these behaviours are crimes. Abuse is not an accident – it is behaviour that is done on purpose to control and intimidate the other person. The impact on the abused person can be devastating – physical injury, psychological injury, depression, living in constant fear, self-harming.

  • Physical abuse- e.g. hitting, punching, burning, strangling, slapping, biting, pinching, kicking, pulling hair out, pushing, shoving.

  • Sexual abuse- e.g. forcing unwanted sexual acts, including rape, using force, threats or intimidation to make you perform sexual acts, having sex with you when you don't want to have sex, any degrading treatment based on your sexual orientation. 

  • Emotional abuse - e.g. constant criticism, insults, undermining capabilities. 

  • Isolation - e.g. preventing someone from having or developing family, social or professional relationships, preventing from working, monitoring or blocking your telephone calls. 

  • Financial abuse - e.g. withholding money, making a person account for every penny they spend, taking your money without asking. 

  • Threats - e.g. making angry gestures, using physical size to intimidate, shouting you down, destroying your possessions, breaking things, punching walls, wielding a knife or a gun, threatening to kill or harm you and the children.

    Where can I get help?

    Domestic abuse can happen in any family and in all kinds of homes. In half of the cases of physical abuse between adults, children get hurt too. Even when children do not see the abuse happening, they often hear it. In nine out of ten cases, children are in the same or next room when the abuse is going on. This can be extremely distressing and disturbing for them and can cause lasting emotional harm.

    Below is a range of new publications which all staff should be aware of and consider in their work with children, families and adults.

    Responding to Domestic Abuse Guidance Document March 2017

    CAADA_DASH Risk Identification Checklist (Young Peoples version)

    Download Related Documents:

    What is Coercive Control PDF
    What is Coercive Control PDF

    Risk Indicator Checklist
    Risk Indicator Checklist

    Responding to Domestic Abuse April 2014
    Responding to Domestic Abuse April 2014

    Toolkit MARAC April 2014
    Toolkit MARAC April 2014

    DA and Substance Misuse Handbook 2014
    DA and Substance Misuse Handbook 2014

    Keeping Safe - Tips for working with families affected by Domestic Abuse
    Keeping Safe - Tips for working with families affected by Domestic Abuse

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